Review by Margaret Feinberg
Love means you don't have to compromise.
Passion will eventually fade from all relationships.
Similarities are the strongholds of a good relationship.
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The most powerful segments of the book are found in stories drawn from McMillan's practice as a clinical psychologist. These passages serve as an introduction to a host of characters that will remind readers of themselves or someone they know.
Sylvia has ambitions beyond mothering. Dan longs for more intimate ties to his children and friends. The Holland family struggle with relationship norms. Marsha has been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and must face her peers. By providing variety and depth to the cases presented along with the people's responses to counseling, readers will be able to learn from other cases and hope to make fewer relational mistakes of their own.
McMillan successfully walks readers through a relational journey that is both optimistic and realistic. He reminds us of the numerous paradoxes that emerge from a relationship. For example, you get more power by giving power away. Some of the greatest relationship treasures come from moments that might have been disastrous and humiliating. Wanting something is more important than getting what you want. These and other thought-provoking observations continue to challenge and stimulate readers throughout the book.
Whether you are considering a relationship or have been married for many years, David McMillan's "Create Your Own Love Story: The Art of Lasting Relationships" will help you use your own energy and initiative to strengthen your connection for years to come.
Margaret Feinberg is a single, freelance writer in Steamboat Springs, Colorado.
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